let's talk about sex!
okay, so i was going to take down the previous post. sometimes when i haven't slept much, my thoughts become weak and paltry..and i end up sounding like a sap. not unlike john eldredge (don't get me started). alas, i got home too late, and people had already commented. so i'll leave it up, because one of my dear friends coined an amazing word "procrastistalking", and its too good to erase.
in other news, salterrae, one of the student papers on campus, at the most swanky college, has asked me to do a piece for them. they're going to be doing a feature section on sexuality and the modern perceptions of sex. so, one of the editors asked me if i'd be willing to write a piece on the chastity and the justifications for it based on Christianity.
anyways, i know all of you are far more brilliant than i, so i wanted to ask you for your thoughts on chastity and such.
comment away!!!! if there was ever a time to comment, it is now.
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You've got to rock some Ephesians. Something about being the Bride of Christ and how our actions with the opposite sex have great practical and symbolic connections to our marriage to him. Wow, that was vague.
okay, our "chastity" is a picture of Christ dedication to us. Stuff like that. If you want to hear some passionate waxing on being the Bride of Jesus, ask bono (our mutual friend, Aban, that is).
You've got to rock some Ephesians. Something about being the Bride of Christ and how our actions with the opposite sex have great practical and symbolic connections to our marriage to him. Wow, that was vague.
okay, our "chastity" is a picture of Christ dedication to us. Stuff like that. If you want to hear some passionate waxing on being the Bride of Jesus, ask bono (our mutual friend, Aban, that is).
You can also consider the angle of saving that most precious thing, sex, for the person that you will live with for the rest of your life (husband or wife depending on who you are.) It's like giving them an exclusive wedding present, one that only they and no one else has access to; it could link well with Son of Man's idea of talking about our relationship with Christ and how our dedication to our future spouse is like Christ's dedication to us.
The only problem I see with this particular angle is you'd need to go into some detail about exactly what the Christian view on a longterm marriage is as well, and that could wax overlong, seeing as how many people see the idea of only having sex with one person or being in a relationship with one person as "boring" and "tying yourself down without playing the field." It might not be irrelevant, but it's definately a field one could get lost in with tangents.
Man... i have so many nonbiblical reasons and so many biblical reasons.
I really liked that article that you posted awhile ago from Boundless about subversive feminism or whatever... that talked about saving yourself for marriage. Something along the lines of deciding not to take part in sexual power relations. But even more than that... (and these are my thoughts now) to treat each other as equals and as God treats us, we need to lay down our habits of sexual manipulation. Ie, women not using their hot bodies to purposely get attention from guys, and guys not using their charm for the same purpose, or guys treating us with respect when we're around and when they're talking with 'the guys'. Equality means purity? i dunno... i totally just made all of that up on the spot.
you could also talk about being counterculture... that as a Christian we aren't supposed to conform to the patterns of the world but be transformed by the renewing of our minds = no sex!
All of those ideas are great. Definitely whip out lots of scripture etc. Other things to mention could be that ultimately, when you talk to a man, any man, he would rather marry a virgin. Even guys who have had tons of sex think a virgin is the ultimate to 'conquer' or whatever. They are more attracted to them because they are pure and untouched. I've asked plenty of guys if once they get married would they rather marry a virgin or someone who has slept around a bit, they always answer a virgin!
Secondly, a big 'excuse' that the secular world uses is, "what is you're not sexually compatible, you won't know if you don't have sex before marriage"- personally I don't believe in 'sexual compatibility' as I'm sure many Christians do not. Good sex, or sexual compatibility comes down to communication and being able to talk to your partner about your needs and vice-versa.
Umm what else...? hmm. I can't think right now, it's 1:10am and I need to get rollin' on this essay haha. But I cannot WAIIIIIIIIT TO READ THE ARTICLE YOU WRITE! Tell me tell me tell me when it comes out and grab a copy for me please! :) I want a hard copy of this, nothing online woman! :) yay!
What an awesome oportunity to speak for all of us Christian ladies who are waiting....Praise God!
Oopsie poopsie! The men too! Talk about how, although it may be shocking, there are lots of amazing men out there actually willing to wait for us, which is awesome and special :) YAY!
I would suggest writing about how being chaste affects your own personal life. Sometimes the world has a difficult time understanding the relevance of Scripture on these things (almost as much as Christians do) - they'll have an easier time understanding why the choice to be chaste makes sense to your daily lived experience, and how it frees you from the emotional complications and hurts that promiscuity is responsible for. Every Christian has had different experiences with sex and sexuality, and these experiences frame their understanding of it and application of purity (i.e., some will kiss before marriage, some will not) - I would encourage you to share pasisonately from YOUR heart (supplementing it in whatever way you feel would be necessary for the person who's asked you to write this) why you believe chastity is the better way, making it known to people who perhaps feel trapped in a lifestyle that they're not sure how to get out of that it IS possible to be free from (what they may not recognize as) sexual sin.
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