lundi, août 07, 2006

Abolish side hugs and bring in "Les Becs".

i detest side hugs. i think they should be abolished forever and a day. you know....those awkward "christian" hugs that girls and guys give each other; the ones where they stand arms length apart and tap each other on the shoulders. i label these "christian" hugs, because i've NEVER had to give a non-christian friend a cheesy "i don't want you to lust, so i'm going to stand ten million feet away from you and tap your shoulder" hug.

granted, i am not a natural hugger (come on! i'm chinese. everyone knows that many traditional chinese families are not touchy feely). But even I find these hugs awkward!

of course, i understand how frontal hugs might be awkward and not entirely edifying for some people. This is why Quebecois have things figured out. "Les becs" should be exported to the rest of Canada.
In Quebec (and other parts of the world) people greet with two cheek kisses, one on each cheek...this is a greeting that i love! Its so warm and casual. It eliminates the problem that frontal hugs are just TOO much body for some people, but ALSO eliminates the awkward side hugs.

the only problem is.... since its not common elsewhere in Canada you get UBER awkwardnes. what do i mean?

well. how do becs work? first you shake the person's hand, and use that to pull them closer to you. Someone who is used to doing this will just stick out their cheek. BUT...for people who aren't used to this, they'll think you want to hug them and that you're pulling them in for a hug. The end result is that you're moving in to touch your cheek to their cheek, and they end up moving in for a hug..and you end up with your cheek to their neck or something mayo like that.

AWKWARD!

its really a tragedy, because its the best greeting out there. maybe the closest to greeting someone with a holy kiss? hehe.

so to all those who read this blog. lets aim to export les becs from quebec.

14 commentaires:

Anonyme a dit...

Hear hear! Count me in!

Anonyme a dit...

i don't do side hugs... i like "les becs"... flips have sumthin' lyk dat but usually only d rich ppl do dat. very spanish.

Anonyme a dit...

goans do that too, the two kisses thing. i rather associate it with making the rounds around the living room, greeting all the family. to export it, hmm, that's an idea.

Anonyme a dit...

YAY GOANS! haha. i don't know if i'd try it with my friend warren though. he seems as though he might not like it. hmm. i wonder.

Anonyme a dit...

no, i dont think warren would like that at all. hahaha. although, i could be wrong. i say you try it and see what happens.

and side hugs are alright. as are the kisses. and so are no hugs. funniest are the handshakes (with people that you KNOW).

Anonyme a dit...

i love a good side-hug!

Anonyme a dit...

oh it IS very spanish! saw ppl do it quite a bit in Belize..... dunno how many of my friends here would be up for les becs though...... although we also don't really have the problem of side-hugs. i'll greet you with a full hug AND les becs next time i see you if you want!!!!! *heehee* :)

Anonyme a dit...

Middle Eastern people LOVE to hug and kiss. Woot.

Anonyme a dit...

Everything is just better in Quebec, eh Lydia.

Anonyme a dit...

bitter anglo: yes, everything IS better in Quebec.

better coffee, more fun, no toronto anal-retentiveness AND becs. ^_^

Anonyme a dit...

I'm with your friend KM. I associate it with making the rounds in a room when you're late for a party and you have to go greet all the other Goans. But I've pretty much grown up with it so I'm used to it...so lydia, you and pri don't know me that well..;)

I'm with you on thinking the side hug kind of dumb though :P

how about just a straight-up fist-bump among friends? ;)

And please, nothing is better in Quebec. They're french!! :P

Anonyme a dit...

hehe, reminds me of something I heard a while back..."vive les becs libres!"
(*^з^*) <=digital becs, heh.

Anonyme a dit...

wait...it should be "vivent les becs libres," shouldn't it? oh well. you know what I mean!

Anonyme a dit...

HAHAHHA THAT IS SOOO AMAZING MISS LI!!!!

i am SOOO GOING TO MAKE A SHIRT THAT SAYS THAT!!!!!!!!