lundi, janvier 19, 2009

random thoughts.

. today, i cooked laksa from scratch. i think it tasted pretty good (i.e. quite like what it is supposed to taste like), considering i was missing a few key ingredients.

. i asked God to cut the weather in half of the predicted temperature (i.e. minus 30 to minus 15) and He answered (predicted: -22 actual: -12). This makes me marvel like His disciples in (c.f. Matt 8:27) at a couple of things:
  • the God of the UNIVERSE heard my prayers and ANSWERED.
  • He is gracious. It's not as though He needed to answer my prayers. i love how, like a Father, He delights in answering even the most mundane and random prayers.
. sometimes i feel like i was supposed to be a man. For the vast majority of my life, most of my friends have been guys, my room currently looks like a bachelor's apartment (read: disgusting), i often disregard emotions because i want to fix the problem (read: everyone's problems).

. today, in a sermon at church, Andy challenged us to lay aside things that keep us from following Him. i have been mulling this over a LOT in the past two weeks. i think i don't know how to lay things aside. It's one thing to give up food for a certain period of time (i.e. fasting), if, let's say, food is an idol in our lives. It's another thing to lay it aside during the normalcy of life, because you can't just cut food out of your life completely. So how do you get rid of that idol whilst still acknowledging that the object of your lusts, in this case, food, is still going to be present in your life?

. sometimes i wonder if me being friends with many guys is a good thing. It's funny, because for so long, this has been rather situational. In Toronto, i ended up going to a church with a very large proportion of guys. To clarify, i did not go for the guys. i liked the pastor and the preaching, the older generation of people who were warm and friendly, and the programs. Here in Montreal, again, i go to a church with guys streaming out the wazoo. In my small group, i am the only girl. Where are all the girls?

. interesting quote i read awhile back that i've been meaning to blog about, that i am not prepared to comment on, but want to get your thoughts on. Where is the boundary when you are good friends with guys? i have so many guy friends, and so i wonder how to set the line. i have a bit of a Harry mindset (i.e. girls and guys cannot be good friends without complications) and yet, i have many good friends who are guys.
As Debbie Maken would say, you've got to leave men lonely enough to need you. Or as Scott Croft said, don't meet all of a man's "intermediate needs" lest he never feel the need to marry. The key is to not do so much as his friend that your friendship could be mistaken for a dating relationship. It's tempting to slide into a relationship because it's comfortable...
. i'm sure i had other thoughts-- my brain is so full these days-- but i can't remember them now. And it is late. Goodnight.

3 commentaires:

Anonyme a dit...

My church is the opposite. We have a lot of committed girls, and not so many guys. In fact, girls have left to go this other church only a 5 minute drive away because there are way more guys there. So you're in a unique situation from my viewpoint!

Anonyme a dit...

Don't worry, you're so not a man. You probably can't tell that as obviously as, say, me. But I think it's pretty obvious.

Also, I've noticed that a lot of girls actually try to fix the problem rather than reflect and validate the person's feelings. It's kind of frustrating, actually.

In regards to guy/girl boundaries, what a pickle. I don't know what the answer is. I think it's a LITTLE bit dependent on the particular person. Some ppl, whether due to personality or family experiences, seem to be able to have lots of opposite gender, quality friends. Some are a lot more comfortable not being like that.

I'm starting to think that part of the key is just loving your friends, opposite-gendered or not, in a way that is true to yourself and how God has made/shaped you. This behaviour needs to be bounded and informed by Scripture and its principles, of course. But yeah, that's my hunch. Don't go around telling disciples this, though - it's as of yet unverified.

Anonyme a dit...

hmmmm, true there CAN be complications that can arise. but I guess it would have to be a person person/ situation to situation judgement call.

PS: I stumbled upon this while perusing Rains bloglist subscription. (fanlist...I don't know what you call it) if you were wondering how I finds it.