mercredi, mars 11, 2009

assumptions, assumptions.

It's funny when you get into a relationship, because all of a sudden, people assume things of you. They assume that you don't want to spend time with your single friends (and thus, your single friends seem to avoid you like the plague), they assume you want to talk about your relationship (another reason why the singles avoid you like the plague), when really, all you want to do is be the same person you once were and hang out the way you used to.

It's frustrating sometimes, because once you get into a relationship, people treat you as though you're a different person...and maybe in some ways, you are. Changes in life are bound to lead to some changes in character or in habits or schedules. But at the same time, i don't know. I'm still Lydia. For the love of martha! It's only been two weeks.

i still like hanging out with my single friends, i still like being alone and sipping tea and looking at the sun warm my window. i still like going on random adventures with random people, and i still like talking about theology and having debates and talking about very non-girly things.

i don't know, i enjoy this new relationship, but i don't feel as though i need to talk about it all the time, nor do i want to talk about it all the time. i just want to enjoy life, ALL of life, not just this one new part of my life. And i wish, just wish, people wouldn't make assumptions about what i want to talk about, what i want to do, how i want to spend my time, or who i want to spend my time with.

i wish people wouldn't let a relationship define me (except for my relationship with Jesus) when it's not how i define myself.

8 commentaires:

Jess a dit...

I think that's why you're so great! You're steady & reliable :)

Vanessa a dit...

Ah yes. We all do it. We assume the Moms are too busy with their kids or don't want to come out when it's the exact opposite. (Although, I must confess...I do like talking about babies and kids. Specifically, my kid. I suppose I'm one of "those" Moms).
Sucks, eh? Happens when you get married, too. Your single friends think you don't want to hang with them and you think they don't want to hang with you.
PEOPLE! WE WANT TO HANG WITH YOU!!! :)
I liked this post.

Jill a dit...

haha, in general, i am definitely guilty of those assumptions and the plague-avoiding. good post!

Suzanne a dit...

ms. Lydia... I did not know you were in a relationship. Perhaps I might find a picture of you and said person on facebook. I will now go see if I can find out more. Oh the life of the web :)

shellieos a dit...

I'm not avoiding you!!! I just can't find you...online. DAH the conflicting schedules.

Loco a dit...

so does this mean i can tell other ppl that ur in a relationship. i've been so quiet about it... i need to tell! lolz.

can i say who too?

Lydia a dit...

loco: LOL..it was never a secret...

Loco a dit...

ohhh... dang it... i wanted to shout it from the rooftops too and had to stop myself. now i won't! there's no holding me back!!! hahaha