samedi, juillet 04, 2009

on new perspectives.

You know, one of the things i'm liking the most about being at IBS is just the vast variety of perspectives that exist amongst staff members. Sometimes, being in Canada, with a small community of staff, i find myself getting into a rut in terms of thinking (and the practical implications of these patterns of thought). In any community, there's a trend to kind of think the same way or hold the same opinions and do things, do life the same way.
Being here at IBS has been really refreshing, because there are so many more staff here in the States, and with the larger population, comes more varying perspectives.

This past week, my TA for Bible Study Methods met up with me, and he mentioned that he strongly feels that I should consider pursuing post-graduate studies. That my quality of work and work-ethic definitely demonstrate that I would be a good fit to pursue a Master's and a potential doctorate.

Interesting.

Sometimes, i feel as though in the Christian community that i find myself in, there is only one way for a woman to do things. Get married, have kids, become a stay at home mom. I've entertained the thought of doing an MDiv or something of the sort, but the perspective that seems to get passed around is, "If you are a woman and you are married, this path is your only choice. Staying at home is the only way you could be a loving mother." It's not as though this is explicitly stated (although, i have heard this repeated, multiple times). But sometimes, when there is only one way modelled, it is hard to conceive of life being any other way.
(note: Yes, there are woman on staff or in christian communities who have completed MDivs, but, they are often--not always--but often, single women)

So even having this encouragement was a big thing for me. Especially coming from a middle-aged man. It's one thing for it to come from a woman (beware, God-forbid... could she be a... a.. feminist!), but it's a nice thing to hear from a middle-aged man who has a wife and kids.

There are other perspectives, practical life perspectives, that i'm also gleaning from. It's nice to meet godly people who dated for more than a year before getting married; nice to eat lunch with a group of guys, and treat them like brothers, instead of segregating into male and female camps; nice to just meet people who are so completely different than me, so completely different than us, with their southern drawls and all.

At the risk of sounding po-mo, it's just been good to glean different perspectives from equally "godly"/"spiritual" people and enjoy their company just as much as i enjoy the company of those back home.(bible study methods tutorial class 2009)

5 commentaires:

Anonyme a dit...

I'm glad you're being encouraged to fan into flame the gifts that God has given you.

I have a high view of motherhood (as a guy) and think that it's a great calling, but that doesn't mean that you can't also be pursuing other avenues even while you and your future husband raise your kids.

P.S. I see that your class resorted back to gender segregation for the picture. =P

lowonthego a dit...

hahah yes...that is why the picture is funny and fits right into the blog. LOL.

Monica a dit...

Hey Lydia,

I felt the same type of 'refreshment' when I graduated last year and now spend more time with my church community. It's nice to meet different Christians from a wider variety of backgrounds and lifestyles.

It's My DLu! a dit...

hey lyds,

that's one of the reasons i so enjoyed moving out west. i realized that i could believe differently on certain persuasion level issues without feeling like i was being heretical.

tara has been working through some of this stuff too. when she first got here, she was really indecisive about whether she should do the courses for credit or not (the argument against being "if you're going to be a mom, you'll never get your mDiv anyways").

in the end, she decided to do the courses for credit, and i'm glad she did. just because you're a mom doesn't mean you have to shelve your intellect or education.

Sid S. a dit...

dooooo iiitttt!!! =)

i would like my future wife to have her masters too.

and i'm not quite sure if i would like my wife to be a housewife. i guess that's something we would need to talk about. but i wouldn't want her to feel like that is the only option she has to choose because she's a Christian and everyone is doing it.